Biscotti & Podcasts: The Small Rituals That Keep Us Close
In 2020, my husband and I entered a new season of life. We were empty-nesters (sort of), we’d moved just outside of town, and I’d started my coaching work. And something else shifted. We became more intentional about our connection.
I don’t remember consciously deciding to make that change, but it started to grow. And honestly, it feels like the best season of our marriage yet.
Not because life got easier. But because we got stronger as a couple, on the inside.
We’ve had our share of challenges: people we love going through hard things, our own hurdles, and seasons that tested our patience and teamwork. But what’s made the difference isn’t that those struggles disappeared. It’s that we’ve built little connection points that keep us anchored. Touchpoints that help us feel connected and aligned when the outside world feels uncertain.
Little connection points that keep us anchored
What are those connection points? They’re simple, and fun! Friday night “happy hour,” where we take turns choosing what to do (nothing fancy). Some weekday mornings, a quick coffee together before diving into work, often out on the patio to catch the morning sun. Evening couch time, squeezed into the corner together. Short walks throughout the week that help us sort through decisions or talk about what’s on our minds.
And two of my favorites: one weekend morning with homemade biscotti and coffee, and another with a bigger breakfast (one he makes—yay!) while we listen to a podcast together. We usually end up pausing it over and over to talk about what we’re hearing. Those conversations are rich, and they spill over into the rest of our week.
Those small things matter more than they look. They keep us connected and centered.
It’s not about time, it’s about intention
If I could go back in time, I’d add some of these sooner. Sure, it’s easier now that we have an empty nest, but that’s not the reason they work. It’s the intention behind them. Even in busy seasons, it’s possible to carve out small rituals.
Even in busy seasons, it’s possible to carve out small rituals.
Bringing that same connection to your money
And while most of our rituals aren’t about money (though the topic sometimes comes up), they’ve shown us how powerful frequent, easy conversations can be. That same principle applies to money.
If you and your partner want to feel closer and more aligned, connection helps, a lot. And you can build that connection through money talks too. Instead of circling, fighting, or avoiding, you can make those conversations normal, even something to look forward to.
You can make those conversations normal, even something to look forward to.
They will build understanding, appreciation, and teamwork. For a closer relationship, and a financial future you can both feel confident and excited about.
Try this:
Pick one small ritual to start this week. It doesn’t have to be about money. Just something that helps you slow down and connect. Once it feels natural, you can build from there.
And if money talks are where you struggle, that can be the perfect place to begin. Start small, with easy conversations that help you stay curious and show appreciation for the one you love.
If you’d like help with those talks, that’s exactly what we do inside Wealth Together. You can start with the free Money Talks Quiz and the downloadable WealthTalk Starter Kit, which will guide you through intentional money conversations. It’s a first step toward more connection and a more positive path forward together!
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