Dream Again This Month
Why dream again?
If we're honest, the dreams we used to have get dim. Somewhere along the way, “adulting” takes over. We raise kids, build careers, manage homes, and deal with financial pressure. Little by little, our imagination shrinks. Dreams start to feel risky, irresponsible, or unrealistic. Regret creeps in. We look at choices we made that didn’t go well and quietly decide, “That ship has sailed.”
So why dream at all?
Because when we stop sharing dreams with each other, the way we did when we were head-over-heels, we slowly drift. Our relationship becomes more transactional than inspired. We turn into two project managers coordinating tasks, instead of two people building something exciting together.
Dreaming again is not irresponsible. It’s not indulgent. It’s one of the ways you nurture your relationship. It is relational fuel.
It’s also your motivational spark for the changes ahead. It’s what turns effort into meaning. Without shared dreams, money conversations feel heavy and merely strategic. I want you to feel purpose, hope, and direction—with a newfound financial partnership as your foundation.
Where Gottman Comes In
As you may know, my relational work with clients is shaped by Gottman’s research. I call it the science of money talks, but it’s more than that. It’s the science of financial partnership. Of wealth partnership. And all this talk about dreams aligns closely with Gottman’s first principle for a happy marriage: Love Maps. It’s the practice of knowing your partner’s inner world, not just who they are today, but who they are becoming.
Ask yourself:
When was the last time you shared your dreams with your partner? Not goals or to-dos, but dreams. When was the last time you listened to their dreams? When was the last time you felt aligned and energized enough to pursue something big together?
Reawakening and bringing those dreams back into conversation reinforces your partnership. When you remember why you're building something, even money conversations soften. Suddenly you’re not debating dollars. You’re fueling a future.
Your Invitation for December
Have one of those conversations this month. Find a quiet time and have a real one. A hopeful one. It will set the stage for January, the month when shared dreams begin to take shape as shared direction. You will enter 2026 not with vague wishes you’ve already decided can’t happen, but with purpose. And maybe even a little more closeness.
Try this:
Ask your partner: “If nothing were holding us back—time, money, fear, regret—what would you love to build, experience, or become in the next chapter of our life together?”
Then stop. Listen without judgment. Listen without being “realistic” or poking holes. Just listen. Affirm what you hear. You might discover something new. Or you might remember something beautiful that got buried under the responsibilities of life.
Create a shared vision this month.
In January? Start the work!
And if it feels like even beginning this conversation will be hard, take the Money Talks Quiz and download my free resource Talk About Money (Without Fighting). You’ll learn your current communication pattern, what gets in the way, and how to begin these conversations more gently.
I’m excited for what this can do for you!
