A Different Way Through: How One Couple Began Changing Their Money Story
Sometimes the hardest part of working on money isn’t the numbers. It’s the patterns, the stories we carry, and the way they play out between us.
One of the couples in Wealth Together has lived this out in such a real way. They’ve tried before to combine finances, but with no clear habits or systems, it never stuck. She comes from a family history where money was mishandled by the men in her life, and the women had to carry a heavy weight of responsibility, so there’s always been an undercurrent of fear around sharing finances. And he has carried a deep money script of what it means to be “a man and provide,” which has made seasons of job loss and unstable work especially painful.
When they joined Wealth Together, he had just lost another job after his car was repossessed. She was the only one earning, and both of them felt the weight. For him, it cut into his sense of worth. For her, it meant carrying the full load of the finances and feeling alone.
Here’s the shift though: they began showing up to the program together. They started practicing money conversations instead of avoiding them. They encouraged each other when things were heavy. They began looking toward the future instead of just putting out fires.
At one point in a group session, he admitted that when he wasn’t earning, he had stepped back completely, convinced he didn’t get to have a voice in the finances. That left her frustrated, managing everything but then hearing “why didn’t I know about that?” from him later. He laughed when he realized the cycle. He had pulled away, but still wanted to be in the loop. That was the turning point. He could see how much he still contributes in other ways, and how important it is to be in the financial conversation no matter what his paycheck looks like.
Since then, they’ve noticed big changes.
“We’re going through this so differently than we have in the past.”
“We’re more future-focused.”
“We’re actually having fun working on things together.”
And just recently—good news!—he landed a new salaried job. They know there’s still more work ahead, but they feel like partners in it now.
This is just one couple’s story. Over the next few weeks I’ll be sharing more about the unique journeys of other couples inside Wealth Together. Each of them started from a different place, but all are building new ways of handling money that bring steadiness and connection instead of stress.
If you want that for your own relationship, now’s the time to join us. Early-bird pricing ends on Monday, September 15.
